By Cheryl Cook
Published: Lifelines for Health, Winter 2017
How do I even begin to tell anyone what Inhibitor Family Camp means to our family? How do you explain that it was a life-changing event?
My son is a mild hemophiliac, but we didn’t even know what an inhibitor was until he was diagnosed with one.
Our life changed in a minute. I heard about this camp from someone who had been there before, so I looked into it. We registered and “yeah!” we heard we were going!!
However, I was told by many that Jake should not go. His needle phobia required five (5) adults to hold him down for every infusion. We had health care companies that refused to work with us. We were giving infusions everyday. He was a mess; I was a mess. After much thought, I called to let CHES know we would not be coming to camp this year.
There was this voice on the other end of the phone, (I could barely hear because of the tears I was crying - saying we would not be coming.) It was another mom. The mom who said this camp was something she knew people needed; this was Janet Brewer (of CHES.) She told me to get Jake on that plane. She knew what I was going through and assured me that she would be there. She had survived through these same times and would help us get through them. She said she believed this would be something that Jake would never forget. She was so right. That weekend CHANGED Jake’s life!
When we got back from camp, none of his doctors or nurses believed this was the same kid. He was, but something had changed. I am still not sure what exactly happened to my 7-year-old that weekend, but he had
a different attitude and outlook. He was better able to accept this inhibitor diagnosis. He said it was because he was able to hang out with kids who “got” it. He said he felt that if they could do it, he could do it. We still have some stumbling blocks, but each time we go, it gets better.
The second year we were able to go, my son learned to self-infuse! Wow, what one year can do! The third year, he was excited about seeing his friends. He looks forward to hearing that registration has opened. He looks forward to seeing who is going to be there. He gets to go to Inhibitor Family Camp and be a kid; be with other kids, just like him, and no one is looking at his port. No one is wondering why he has it, or what is wrong with him? He’s able to just be a kid.
I asked him to describe what this camp means to him, and he turned around and said one word, ”JOY!”
All I can say is, “thank you!”